Awareness · 7 min read

Romance Scams 101: How to Spot and Avoid Them

Romance scams steal hearts and wallets. Learn the playbook scammers use and how to protect yourself from emotional and financial manipulation.

The Romance Scam Epidemic

Romance scams caused over $1.3 billion in losses in 2023 alone according to the FTC — more than any other fraud category. These scams are devastating because they target human vulnerability and emotion, not just financial naivety.

How Romance Scams Work

Scammers create convincing fake profiles on dating apps, social media, or even messaging apps. They invest weeks or months building genuine emotional connection before introducing financial requests. Common personas include military officers overseas, oil rig workers, successful businesspeople, or doctors working internationally.

The Investment Pivot

A growing pattern called "pig butchering" (sha zhu pan) combines romance scams with fake crypto investment platforms. After building trust, the scammer introduces a "can't miss" investment opportunity on a platform they control. Early fake profits encourage larger deposits until the victim is drained.

Warning Signs

  • They refuse video calls or calls are always blurry or brief
  • They work in a profession that keeps them conveniently away (military, offshore)
  • They profess love unusually quickly
  • They ask for money, gift cards, or crypto "for emergencies"
  • They introduce a lucrative investment opportunity

What To Do

If you suspect a romance scam, stop all communication immediately, do not send any more money, report the platform and email address on Scamtrustor, and file a report with the FTC at reportfraud.ftc.gov.